On letting the ghosts of love say good-bye
David Foster Wallace once said, "Every love story is a ghost story." I never quite got his point until recently when I entered the final stretch of selling and emptying my family's house for the [...]
On continuation, Indra’s net and an old alabaster lamp
One of my favorite pieces of wisdom was given to me inside a walk-up pizza shack in Abiquiu, New Mexico called Mamacita's. It's a one-woman shop run by a New York transplant who does everything [...]
When a guest bathroom isn’t just a guest bathroom
It seemed an odd choice. The house that our family called home is on the market and will soon be sold. Last weekend, I started the journey of emptying out each room. And I chose [...]
Always, there are angels to help us get back up
Listen. I want to say something: It is always possible to get back up. Do you know why? Because always there are angels. That’s what I learned last week, when one of life’s unexpected tidal [...]
Saying good-bye to my Gran, twenty-two years after she said good-bye to me
It’s now been twenty-two years since my Gran died. At 1:57 a.m. on February 11, 2001, about ten days after she had been taken off food and liquids following a series of debilitating strokes, Gran [...]
When anxiety, fear and despair don’t get the memo to go away
You would think, by now, it would go away. After all the years (seventeen to be exact) of yoga and meditation, of being a shaman, of trying to hold, pull and keep myself together.Surely, all [...]
A family meditation on love…and snow ice cream
It snowed last night in Plano, Texas. I first noticed it while doing the dishes at the kitchen sink. For reasons I did not yet understand, I soon found myself grabbing my gin and tonic [...]
Why I’m going a bit slower into this new year
Such an odd time of year this. Society gets us all hyped up to hit the ground running, sprinting even, into the new year. And yet. And yet, for those of us in the northern [...]
This new year, dream big
If you should find yourself sitting in the seasonal space of new year's resolutions, intentions and such, I have two words for you: Dream Big! That's right. After all that we've been through these past [...]
The story of Fernisia, the born-again fern
This is the story of Fernisia, the born-again fern. She is a "macho fern" that I bought in the spring of 2020 (I know, I know, one might think that you'd name a macho fern [...]