I’ve been trying out a new meditation lately. I call it the “I have what I need” meditation.

Now, at the risk of being like one of those online recipes that requires 450,000 swipes before you get to the actual recipe, let me provide some context before I get to the meditation.

First, this is a bit of an odd meditation for me because I try to live my life from the attitude of “I have what I need.” It’s foundational to my consulting/coaching business (I try to come in more as a mirror for my clients and less of an expert). Materially, it’s how I’ve lived the last fourteen months: No permanent address, the majority of my “stuff” in a 10×10 storage unit back in Texas and “what I need” whittled down to what can fit in my Mazda CX-5.

Along with my old boy pooch, Gartholomew.

And me.


Life sometimes likes to trick us into forgetting what we already know.

What we already have.

Doesn’t it?

Certainly, that’s been true for me these past few months.

I’ve set a goal of finishing something I’ve never done before (write a one-man show) as well as an intention to come up with new solutions to old challenges (like how to be single in your 50s and how to take care of my assisted living Mom in a way that works for both of us).

Yet, recently, whenever I sat down to achieve the goal or do the intention, I found myself, instead, thinking, maybe I need to, first, read another post.

Take another course.

Watch another video.

Make another list.

It can be easy to fall into this trap. Every day, my social media and email feeds are filled with little prompts of “Has this ever happened to you?”, “Are you struggling to reach your dreams?” “Do you feel overwhelmed and burned out?”

Reading them, it’s easy to think, “Why yes. Yes I do. How did you know?”

But here’s the thing: The folks that send you those prompts are trying to make money. There’s nothing wrong with that, of course. I mean,it’s the same mentality that my grocer uses, my yard guy, my old boy pooch’s pet food store. They’re all trying to “upsell” by suggesting you “upskill.”

Which, again, is perfectly understandable. And sometimes helpful.

Just maybe not always necessary.

Which brings me to my new “I have what I need” meditation.

It’s a kitchen-based meditation.

It goes like this: Whenever I start thinking about my next meal, I try to ignore the latest promotion from Uber Eats or the pull of living within walking distance of fantastic restaurants.

Instead, I tell myself, “I have what I need.”

Instead, I open the freezer, check the crisper, open the spice cabinet and ask myself, “What can I make with what I have?”

Now, to be clear, sometimes when I do all these things, I’ll find myself saying, “Well, that zucchini isn’t exactly fresh” or “I only have white rice and brown rice is better for me.”

But, then, I just practice saying, “It’ll do for today.”

And I get back to preparing my meal.

Achieving my goal.

Doing my intention.

With what I already have.

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